Chalerm is back. Quietly and without saying anything he has moved back into The Mansion now that I am in Malaysia.
I also think he is working in the office again. He goes early to bed and he only does that when he has to. But I haven’t asked as I don’t want to push the issue. No need to rub it in.
So I won, did I? I don’t want to see this disagreement in terms of winners and losers. It is a win-win situation. Chalerm came to his senses. He is back on track to a career in the tourist industry. He has abandoned this outrageous idea that he could live off my money and do nothing.
What if I got hit by a bus and Chalerm had to support himself? What if he was too lazy to have any work experience, and too lazy perhaps to finish his degree?
It is un-Thai to worry about the future. But Chalerm used to have some drive and energy, enough to get by. It just temporarily left him.
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May 26th, 2008 at 10:18 am
A little time works wonders for the Thai mind.
May 26th, 2008 at 2:46 pm
Glad it worked out! Be happy & enjoy Malaysia.
May 26th, 2008 at 4:31 pm
Congratulations! I am happy to hear it. All the best for the next time …
May 26th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
I hope you’re right. And I hope he doesn’t revisit this idea once he’s got a “real'’ job, or he won’t have it for long.
BTW, how do you know all this ? Do you have the soi queens spying for you ?
May 26th, 2008 at 7:15 pm
:)
Happy for you both SF! (I also have to say I admire the “Win-Win” interpretation of events - it bodes well for your relationship, I’m sure.)
May 26th, 2008 at 7:56 pm
How I know? I asked Chalerm on the phone where he was. When he stayed with friends he would say “Bangkok”. Now he says “home”. The rest comes from knowing his habits.
May 26th, 2008 at 7:57 pm
Silom Farang
This is good news its even drawn my first comment after years of following your blog. I have always keenly followed your relationship story and as a expat living in Pattaya have my own versions of visits from Grandma and the old army cousin which sound very similar to yours
it has helped me balance my own relationship so if I ever get to the pointing to the door phase I have the blueprint here.
May 27th, 2008 at 12:43 pm
Not surprising, what where his other options? Still, the same attitude exists and will reappear at a future date. Stay tuned to this channel for season two to find out how this works out, and what about poor Nemo?
May 27th, 2008 at 7:34 pm
Not being at all acquainted with the farang/Thai experience—I am an Australian living in Melbourne with a well-integrated Malaysian Chinese boyfriend—I find your blog and your Chalerm travails fascinating. It is good that you are seeing this as a win-win outcome, which it is.
I must say, though, I would get mightily frustrated by the “fathering” aspect of farang-Thai relationships, to which you have alluded in your previous posts.
May 27th, 2008 at 11:16 pm
Sounds like Chalerm is on the straight and narrow, which is a good thing!
Do you have any pictures of him on your site or do you keep him separate from all this? xx H
May 28th, 2008 at 11:17 am
Aww… Is Nemo going to be ok?