I spoke to Chalerm about his grandmother yesterday. He tried to smooth things over and said she liked me and only said nice things about me. Regarding what she had said about the farang, maybe that wasn’t about me but about some fat farang she had seen on TV.
Hmmm. I am not convinced. Anyway, I will let it pass.
No, I won’t hold back her pension. That was just my petty mind in the heat of the moment.
But the pattern repeats itself. She has stayed here up to two weeks at a time before, and things get a little tense. It is not easy for a Westerner to deal with a house guest who arrives unannounced, doesn’t say how long she will stay, doesn’t say anything at all actually, and who thinks this is the natural way of visiting people.
It is not just her, I get tired of any Thai guests if they stay for weeks.
Granny has her routines and her favourite TV programmes and she doesn’t like to be disturbed. Sunday evening Farang S and I invaded her bedroom in the evening as we were trying to fix Chalerm’s computer. We apologised for the intrusion (Farang S speaks excellent Thai) and explained what we were going to do. It got a little cramped in there as she was resting and didn’t leave. But she went to the kitchen when I turned on the air condition. Anything under 25 C is bitterly cold for her.
And then I watched DVD movies three days in a row in her TV time… yes, she must find me annoying. 
January 31st, 2006 at 4:30 pm
First it was Thai Boy Entitlement Syndrome, now it’s Cranky Old Thai Hag Entitlement Syndrome. I don’t know how you put up with it.
Chalerm may not be in a position to explain to her what is acceptable behaviour, but some one should - she needs to ask if she can come to visit, say how long she’s staying, make sure it’s not too long, don’t insult the farang, and make her own entertainment. And make it VERY clear that she appreciates her pension.
You’re not in the merit making business.