February 16th, 2006

Diary: Gonna get him

Granny must have been here for three weeks now. She has staked out the kitchen as her territory in the daytime. She sits and looks out the window. By now both she and Chalerm have recovered from their own cooking.

Chalerm was busy taking pictures of himself in underwear today, using auto timer on the small digital camera he has. I said he must not put those on the Internet. No reply.

Farang S and I spent another couple of hours trying to fix Chalerm’s computer yesterday. This must be the 5th such session, and the cursed thing still doesn’t work. We can’t get Internet to it. Farang S did most of the tinkering while I kept him company. He is good at this, but no trick can restore the connection. We tried installing different versions of Windows even, 98, 2000 and ME. I had enough of the PC. It is now degraded to an off-line typewriter.

I was unhappy Chalerm didn’t give me anything for Valentine. No card, no cutie gift. It doesn’t matter what it is, a 20 B red heart on a stick from the 7-Eleven would do fine. When I asked him he said he could not make up his mind what to give me, so he bought nothing. I asked if he had liked it if I had ignored the V-day. He said “up to me”, and that he had stuffed animals already so the gift wasn’t that important. Grrrr! This is the childish immature Chalerm again. He doesn’t consider how I feel about it. He even has the nerve to speak about the gift he received in a dismissive way. He doesn’t mean to hurt me, it is just that 12-year old part of his brain kicking in. At least he gave me romantic messages in person and by phone. Nevertheless, I am going to get him for this. I am just waiting for the right moment.

Farang D’s web site is nearly done. It is now 32 pages. Chalerm went to his office with a part invoice since Farang D said I should not wait until the bill became a large sum. His Thai bf aka the financial officer likes to pay in smaller installments. But now the two are going abroad and I haven’t seen any of the money. But those who wait for something good…

Chalerm bought another mobile phone. This one is yellow. He keeps changing them every six months. Where does he get the money from? At least he trades in the old one for another 2nd hand model. He doesn’t buy 40 000 baht phones. (Leave that to Farang D’s boyfriend).

I have identified yet another small gay boy/ladyboy-in-waiting in my neighbourhood. This one is Thai-Chinese and chubby. What is the gay rate in Thailand? I have heard 5% mentioned. That would be one in twenty, the gay for pay or flexible ones not counted.

Chalerm has holiday from school. As usual he didn’t tell me before the fact. He just stayed home one day and that was how I discovered he had time off. I would like to know about his holidays so we can plan a trip. But it doesn’t occur to him to tell me. It doesn’t occur to him to look it up either, he hears about the holiday right before it begins.

4 Responses to “Diary: Gonna get him”

  1. Anonymous Says:

    hmmmmm…
    multiple mobile phones…
    nightlife on Silom…
    ungrateful and thoughtless…
    ladyboy…
    heavy use of internet…
    sexy photos of self…
    where does he get the money…

    2+2=4?

  2. Silom Farang Says:

    Don’t get too excited. The yellow phone he bought was 500 baht and it isn’t even a real mobile, it is a PCT.

  3. Anonymous Says:

    You have not considered all aspects of the first letter to you, referring only to the mobile phone. It seems to me his attitude as shown around valentine’s day is a clear indication as to his lack of true feeling. All these signs put together really do not look good to an outside reader. Perhaps you are too close to see what is going on, a common occurrence in farang/thai couplings. Real Thais DO NOT act like this.

  4. Anonymous Says:

    Unfortunately many young, gay, Thai boys act exactly like this, whether “real” or money boy. Indeed Thais as a nation have been characterised as acting in thoughtless, childish ways well into adulthood. This is not only reported by middle-aged gay farang. Ask 18 year old backpackers who have come into contact with their Thai age contemporaries. They often liken them to 12 year olds back home.

    However you don’t have to put up with it. The key for me with my bf was conveying that these type of behaviours hurt me. Don’t get angry - then you become the source of the problem, not him.

    You need to make an analogy between the hurt you are feeling and some instance where you know he felt hurt - “you remember how you felt when (insert event here) … well that’s how you made me feel”.

    Young Thais sense of empathy is often not well enough developed to deal with this on a theoretical level - hence the lack of effect of the theoretical notion that you could have chosen not to buy Chalerm a V-day present. He has no experience of this.

    It’s all part of his emotional training.

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