Gay Boy Thailand

Anonymous said…
You hit two of the biggies in one under-the-covers conversation - marriage, and him in farangland. I’ve had to deal at least theoretically with both of these issues, just not at the same time !

My bf is keen on marriage of some sort. I’m ambivalent at best about gay marriage. It’s not possible yet where I come from anyway. I particularly don’t want to ape the breeders. I’ve told him that’s my major objection - but the politics of marriage is not something I suspect he’s given much thought to. There’s something to be said for the lack of a legal link too. As much as I dislike the notion of a pre-nuptial, I can see some sense in it if we did do the full marriage thing.

So I’m actually keener on the Thai temple unoffficial style gay wedding. But there are no plans.

My bf and I are already semi-officially engaged. That resulted from a “face thing” - he decided he had to have a ring on his finger so everyone would know that our relationship was serious (we had been “an item” for 4 years). Not really necessary from my point of view, but for 2000 baht it made him happy. There was no ceremony as such, unless you call visiting the gold shop at the Mall Bangkapi a ceremony.

I’ve told my bf he will visit my home country one day, where I still live. In the mean time we’re travelling in the region (Singapore, soon Laos and Vietnam). He gets exposure to other cultures and stamps in his passport. And he begins to realize that the rest of the world is different to Thailand, and being gay means something different there too.

Discussions of coming to farangland are a good time to bring up the issue of him learning about your culture - before any trip.

The dilemma for me when discussing these difficult issues is making sure he feels secure with me, while realising that some things just may not be possible.

I hope you sort out something mutually “dreamy”.

I bet Chalerm Farang rolls off the tongue a bit easier that Silom his_family_name.

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Silom Farang wrote…
Regarding Him in Farangland… this is not something that is on the horison. I just want to keep all options open. When I moved to Thailand in 2002 I was sure I would spend the rest of my days here. I am not equally sure anymore. One day maybe I have had enough and want to leave, or maybe political changes in Thailand take the fun out of living here (as has happened to a degree already). And living in a long-term relationship is different from coming here single and on the hunt. It is far off, but I won’t rule out going back to Farangland one day.