Anonymous “Mr. H” wrote
Early in this discussion I put forward some ideas about stereotypical dysfunctional behaviours amongst gay Thai boys, partly in response to one of Silom’s other correspondents who had suggested that Silom put up with too much from Chalerm. I think we have demonstrated that these behaviours are not uncommon amongst gay Thai boys, and perhaps young Thais in general.
I do think there are different forms of maturity. Many poor Isaan young boys and girls are essentially supporting their families from a young age. They do this as best they can, with an admirable “practical maturity” and responsibility that Western youths - of similar age but better education - would struggle to match. But the Thais are often emotionally immature.
I think anonymous #1 in this thread has made some good points. Unfortunately, other than age, few of these are going to change for most boys if they haven’t got these attributes when you meet them. I have given my bf a degree but yes, it is from Ram ! … I agree that one would not call this a “real” degree in the Western sense (even Chula ranked only 121 in the world in the recent TES ratings of world universities). However it has given him a definate “leg up” in the job market.
Like Chalerm, he “at least knows the real world and the value of work”. Money he’s less strong on. I have managed to keep this under control, despite his fervent wish for a BMW, a house for his mother, and a 5 megapixel digital camera.
Perhaps we could move towards discussing strategies that have helped our bfs become more emotionally mature BEFORE their 35th birthdays.
Mr H.
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