Comments on: Thai boy report

by: bobby

Thu, 15 Mar 2007 11:47:49 +0000

how about getting a lover. Should get you more attention from Charlerm otherwice guess the romantic part of the relationship is dead. Could be fun if you invite young thai friends to stay and dont tell too much about it to Charlerm just like he invites his friends. But still I would say you have a father son relationship and have to accept you have seperate lifes and your lifes only cross when there are problems eg. no more clean shirts, no more money etc. I have the impression you are not a much into the sex action more like to look and only flirt and that you like to be critical, critical mark mark. So the life you have might just be perferct for you.

by: Andrew

Thu, 15 Mar 2007 09:58:58 +0000

While I know Thai don’t necessarily have the same concept of time as Westerners, I would not care how cute, hot and charming a guy was. I could not cope with the constant instability.

by: Another Thai Here

Wed, 14 Mar 2007 02:04:05 +0000

I am starting to think that SF likes being treated this way, otherwise, he would have done something long time ago. Chalerm will continue irritating you if you don’t start setting some ground rules. It is your house, but you’re certainly acting like a guest.

by: Jeff

Tue, 13 Mar 2007 20:09:38 +0000

Kick him out. The behaviour is unreasonable.

by: Norwegian Farang

Tue, 13 Mar 2007 16:41:10 +0000

Maybe it is easier to change the Farang?

by: Tao

Tue, 13 Mar 2007 14:21:17 +0000

Changing a Thai? Interesting concept. While quite affectionate and loyal they are also head strong and self absorbed. It is the mystery that is ever so interesting…and fascinating!

I am not real sure that a Thai broken of their bad habits would be as endearing!

Thus is the Ying and Yang of matters of the heart!

by: J

Tue, 13 Mar 2007 13:54:55 +0000

I have a question: Would Chalerm be your boyfriend if you weren’t giving him an allowance, paying his bills and giving him a place to live? It seems to me Chalerm has simply outgrown his relationship with you and is looking for happiness elsewhere. Of course, he’ll continue the boyfriend charade as long as there’s a financial incentive to do so. Forget about setting rules, trying to change him or warning him of consequences; you can’t change what’s in someone’s heart. If he likes what’s in your heart he’d be there for you, not leaving you behind and not staying out on Silom till dawn.

by: IwanUK

Tue, 13 Mar 2007 09:01:50 +0000

Although it’s clear from your writing Chalerm’s behaviour is causing you some stress, none of us can really know just how much. Is it really make or break time as some readers think?
I would have thought the objective at this stage would be to change him but not to lose him?
Maybe it’s time to sit him down and explain how serious theses niggles have become and ask him to change. Maybe you also need to explain to him the possible consequences of his failure to change and the effect it would have on his life - education - dentist - apartment - stability - lover - status - friends etc.
As BT used to say… “it’s good to talk”.

by: Aussie AL.

Tue, 13 Mar 2007 06:48:09 +0000

I’m afraid I have to agree with Trongpai, my house = my rules. You don’t like = leave!
I applied this rule last week in BKK and it seemed to work, there was much imploring and apologising etc.
I feel the boys are becoming more and more westernised every year. The benefactor must be the boss, “my way or the highway!”

by: trongpai

Tue, 13 Mar 2007 05:33:13 +0000

The lure of friends and the obligations of family must be the two biggest thing that breaks up these farang/Thai relationships.

It’s your house, farang rules apply, assert them. Just my opinion.