Comments on: Thai boy stereotypes?

by: Malcolm Mali

Wed, 12 Dec 2007 09:30:54 +0000

A young Fridae friend, not my bf, and not Thai wrote to me:
“thank god you are not another sugar daddy offering me university fees for exchange of my virginity. you’d be amazed at the number of generous men out there…”
There is always more than one perspective.

by: Tah

Fri, 17 Aug 2007 21:38:55 +0000

I guess I am more fortunate than many of you guys. I helped my Thai bf’s family financially (big sum), supported him through uni (another big sum), give him a job (including that ‘job’!). I thank God everyday, a person 14 years my junior had lived with me for the last 9 years and our relationship is still going strong - at least he still tells me he loves me before bed every night!

by: aussieal

Fri, 27 Jul 2007 12:56:40 +0000

You are very right SF. I concur.

by: Silom Farang

Fri, 27 Jul 2007 02:04:36 +0000

It started with the Asian boy stereotyping you!

by: aussieal

Thu, 26 Jul 2007 13:38:35 +0000

I’m sorry you all feel that Thai boys had been stereotyped.
The boy I wrote about was Chinese from Macau actually. How easy it it to jump to conclusions i know…..however I just wanted to put the record straight!

by: Gwailo

Thu, 26 Jul 2007 05:58:21 +0000

I wouldn’t stereotype Thai boys if only they weren’t all alike.

by: SameSame

Thu, 26 Jul 2007 05:56:44 +0000

“Just last week, I had a bar-host repay a loan!”

He’s just setting you up.

by: Tao

Wed, 25 Jul 2007 23:48:39 +0000

I am great at making generalizations so I am not even going to go there…

But as a “farang” who has had some great times in Thailand and who has had his heart broken more than once maybe us “farangs” could learn to quit taking everything so seriously. Maybe we could learn from the Thais the ability to enjoy the moment without looking for “intent” or “motive” or wondering about where something today will lead in the future…

I am not fat but I have had white hair since I was 22 and I am 6′10″ which means I put up with alot of gawking and giggling around Asians…but I just smile in return.

We sit here and criticize the Thai’s about their cultural traits and I remember one night in Bangkok with a group of Thai’s they cut loose and gave me their lowdown on “farangs” country by country….and you know, in a general sense, they weren’t too far off.

Life is a nothing more than the accumulation of experiences….so rather than having expectations why not just go with the flow and enjoy the experiences…even the gold diggers can be a positive experience for awhile and they cannot hurt you too badly if you don’t have your own expecatations of them

by: jaafar

Wed, 25 Jul 2007 15:20:12 +0000

I agree, SF. Human beings could hardly survive without general statements. The only objection I was raising was one which made a general statement into one about “all.” And we need to be aware of cultural differences, all the time. Just as one reverse example, my current boyfriend came to me with an almost-belief that all farang were “bad people.” Why? Because in his brief career as a bar-host, many farang had fallen madly in love with him and promised to take him to London, Berlin, Paris, etc. These guys were probably not lying. They probably had no idea of just how hard it is to get a visa for a young Thai working on 9th grade in Adult Education, and with no visible means of support. But that was one of the most urgent questions he had for me, as he put me through a very long courtship: “Why did all those men lie to me??” So I explained about the passport, first. He didn’t have one. After a couple years of gentle prodding, he finally applied for a passport, and discovered that he needed a new and different type of Thai ID card, which meant a trip home to the place he was born.

Now, he has a passport! We have been to Bangkok, and even to Phuket! Singapore is coming right up!

But, once again, put yourself in his place, and ask yourself why he thought ALL farang were bad people. We may try to excuse ourselves (”I was in love”) but we really should not make promises that we cannot keep.