I had a plan today. I wanted to bring one of the boys from the Internet café home for a tour of The Mansion. I had only done that once before.
I had Black Boy in mind. Black Boy is as dark as Thais can get and he is gorgeous. I can’t stop watching him. But the other Thais keep reminding him how ugly his black skin is. They don’t see his sensual body movements, or his perfectly symmetric face, or his large inviting lips, or how warm and friendly he is.
Black Boy is a modest and solid kind of guy. He doesn’t say much or make any fuss. He has little money so often he just drops by the Internet café to stand behind one of his friends and watch while they use the computer.
I don’t think Black Boy would get along with Chalerm or his friends. They would look down their noses at him. Black Boy will never attend university and he lives in a shack under the tollway. Chalerm is a middle class person now, lifted up the ladder by my money. He has forgotten he once was selling water bottles in the park by the Grand Palace to survive.
My plan was to go to the Internet café, fetch Black Boy and bring him back here while Chalerm was at work. Chalerm would hear about it of course. The maid and the security guards and the Noodle Family in the soi and 7-Eleven girls would all see it and tell Chalerm what was going on.
But that would have been OK. I didn’t need to show Black Boy the bedroom. But I would like some quality time with Black Boy, and maybe take his picture and get to know him without the eyes and ears of everyone in the Internet café being upon us.
But when I thought I was home alone and that everything was ready I found The Queen of Si Saket in the 2nd bedroom. I asked him if he was going to his hotel job but no, it was his day off.
When the queen got out of bed he made himself comfy with a blanket on the sofa while watching Thai soaps, not asking me if I would mind that the television drowned the music on my computer. The queen seemed determined to enjoy The Mansion for the rest of the day.
There went my Black Boy plan. Sometimes I wish I had some privacy. But privacy isn’t invented yet in Thailand and just as nobody can keep a secret in this country nobody can be alone either.
Tags: gay Thailand, Thai boys
March 20th, 2007 at 11:34 am
you should do wot u will, bro. yr partner is getting too big for his boots. either u tell him shape up or ship out or u can dump his sorry ass out into the gutter post haste. u are way too good and too soft to be enduring his shit. u are an angel to be tolerating so much crap from him for way too long.
being irresponsible is not a thai thing, its not even an asian thing. im a southeast asian bloke and in any culture, asian or otherwise, people, especially boyfriends do not treat each other that way.
its way too easy to shrug off chalerm’s “mischief” (if u can put it that way) or irresponsibility as simply a “thai” or “asian” thing. well. its NOT. hes got a major attitude problem and he must do something about it.
he treats u as his atm, treats your house as a hotel for his friends and cronies, and his friends wreck your house. treats u like something thats merely “tolerated” . eot u waiting for?
remember, its your house. and from yr tone, u are not happy with the way chalerm’ treating u. so why bother? dump him already.
hugs from me.
March 20th, 2007 at 2:07 pm
I can imagine how frustrating it must have been for your plan to be scuppered. It must feel like you are not the master of your own home sometimes.
However, I am not in the “dump Chalerm” camp.
I’m more in the “explain to him that you need to lay down some rules if you are to be happy and have a long term future together” camp. It’s up2you which rules are the most important.
Don’t give up on the plan for the dark boy though - I imagine it would give him lots of ‘face’ and boost his confidence no end. Not to mention giving you some pleasure and us a fascinating read maybe.
March 20th, 2007 at 2:42 pm
OHMYGOD! Black boy sounds like my dream come true! A while ago you posted my fave Thai Boxer, Sombat Banchamek, who is as dark and luscious as sin, so I hope you will post Black boy’s pic if he’s willing…You can tell him from me that there are a few Farangs who can’t imagine anything more beautiful than dark Thai boys…If he’s done any boxing, I’ll SWIM to Thailand for him!
) For what it’s worth, I agree with the previous reader, do please let this poor boy gain some face and confidence, it would be a lovely thing to do - wish I could!
March 20th, 2007 at 3:39 pm
I also like dark skinned thais - the darker the better! And would love to see some pics.
Oh, i’m not in the dump charlerm camp, but i do think you should lay down some ground rules, you are the boss and this soft attitide is doing nobody any good!
March 20th, 2007 at 7:17 pm
Rules? Thai boys don’t like rules. In particular they don’t like rules about when they can come and go.
But you guys gave me an idea. I will tell Chalerm that if he fails to keep me happy I will put him to a dump/keep vote on the Internet.
March 20th, 2007 at 7:36 pm
Actually, that is a great idea! Nothing a Thai loves more than a contest!
Of course he will see it as unfair because everyone only gets your side of the story…
So why not pit him against black boy and tell him that everyone on the blog will be voting as to who makes the better partner…
But then again he may not compete against a darker Thai…that is just unheard of…
March 21st, 2007 at 4:15 am
Time for Plan B, huh?
One thai boy said to me me once. “I am black”…
well, he wasn’t black to me! He was a very healthy beautiful brown, the kind of tan a blond can never
be! I didn’t realize until now that he ment that he
was not of high class, etc. But anyhow…he said
something like “si dam” but I said, noooo….si suai…..each time he said that…I don’t like that
Thai think those Thai chinese aer “better” because
they have fair skin. But anyhow, I also know that
those that work in the fields will obviously be more
brown than those that work in the office, or dance
in dark go- go places….anyhow, I think there is
a similar problem in Malaysia, from what a M’lay-chinese guy told me…well, whatever….I’ll bet
I’d like your Black boy alot….I saw the most
beautiful black boys in Cambodia….wow….but
they are more money boys than Thai boys…stay
away….
Anyhow, for me, those dark Thai boys are si suai ….
March 21st, 2007 at 7:54 am
“…privacy isn’t invented yet in Thailand and just as nobody can keep a secret in this country nobody can be alone either”
Sounds so overly exaggerating! It’s hard to believe that someone who’s been living in Thailand for YEARS would make such an overly dramatic statement. Try to be realistic once in a while wouldn’t hurt, you know. Privacy is there (and has always been there) but you just don’t have the balls to ask for it. Once again, you are acting like a guest in your own home. Nothing new here. Also, in case you haven’t realized this already, you are the one who CHOOSES to surround yourself with this kind of people (inconsiderate + nosey + lazy, just to name a few). You are mostly hanging out with people who are, how should I put it, uneducated! What would you expect? You’ve brought it upon yourself, so you shouldn’t be complaining about it. Honestly, I really enjoy reading your blog but blamming your “inconveniences” on some poor Thai boys (whom you intentionally choose to keep around) is really getting old. Have you heard a saying that goes something like “If you want to know what kind of person you are, look at those that walk with you (aka your friends)”
March 21st, 2007 at 8:34 am
hear hear! i so agree with another thai here. mind im not acting like an asian bitch from hell here but hey man, put yr foot down.
your attitude is rather typical of quite few farang frens i have in bkk. we go for coffee/ brunch/ whatever, farang bloke will complain incessantly about thai partner (who will refuse to come 99 percent of the time) and all the other boys will roll their eyes cos we’ve heard it all before. haha!
as wot i said, do something about the problem rather than just complain about it. *grin*
March 21st, 2007 at 11:52 am
thebrat: you are Thai-Chinese?
March 21st, 2007 at 2:47 pm
Let’s start the vote right now. My vote is for keeping Chalerm. Please register it at once. (I am old enough to vote, so don’t worry).
You do realise that you may have to open another site, for I think we are about to be bitterly divided on this matter of your boyfriend.
March 21st, 2007 at 10:13 pm
nope. im not thai chinese. far from it. im a brown skinned southeast asian boy who grew up in a village, had poor parents, studied hard, got a scholarship, became a teacher, taught and studied at the same time, put myself thru university and got a gpa of 3.97 . not bad for a boy who gre up with chickens and goats his backyard!
March 22nd, 2007 at 12:34 am
Yep, we are just a bunch of whiners! Its our way of letting off steam!
So, what solution do you offer when you say, “do something about the problem rather than just complain…”
Remember we are talking about a relationship involving feelings and not something like a faucet that leaks or a car that does not start…
March 22nd, 2007 at 8:13 am
either sit him down and have a serious talk. give him an ultimatum to shape up, show him all your cards OR dump him for someone better.
bout feelings: something the best thing to do might not be the one thats the easiest to perform or the one that u really wanna do. ive let go of quite a few partners and even called my own wedding off (and forgoing a possible british citizenship) cos i dont think i will be happy with him in the long run and im not a user.
u are an angel, fs. chalerm should appreciate that.