Comments on: Thailand and Farangland http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/ The good life in Bangkok Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:44:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.11-RC2 by: Jeff http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44478 Sat, 14 Jun 2008 20:24:10 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44478 I'm not really qualified to commend, as a single Farang, living in Farangland & wishing I was in Thailand with a b.f. But here we go: It sounds like some fixing up is required in this relationship -Charlerm clearly needs to show a little more affection & take some responsibility for his career. Also, after 6(?) years together, Charlerm might reasonably expect you take him to Farangland at least once. Anyhow, keep up the excellent blog. I’m not really qualified to commend, as a single Farang, living in Farangland & wishing I was in Thailand with a b.f. But here we go:

It sounds like some fixing up is required in this relationship -Charlerm clearly needs to show a little more affection & take some responsibility for his career.
Also, after 6(?) years together, Charlerm might reasonably expect you take him to Farangland at least once.

Anyhow, keep up the excellent blog.

]]> by: Yraen http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44438 Sat, 14 Jun 2008 00:55:21 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44438 Sorry, suan phlu, I have to disagree with that mind-set. If travel broadens the mind of Caucasians, then it can do the same for anybody, incl Thai guys. Sure, when D was here, he sought Asian food when he could; that is only familiarity. (I will bet you do the same thing in Thailand, seeking out western food from time to time.) When western food was served to D he (mostly) enjoyed the experience. If the Thai guys you know truly are as you stereotype, then I suggest you should start fishing in the deep end of the gene pool. Try to find a 'boi' who thinks an occasional visit to DJ or 'telepon' is a treat, not a way of life. Perhaps one who is up at 6 am because he doesn't have enough hours in his day otherwise. Good luck. Sorry, suan phlu, I have to disagree with that mind-set.

If travel broadens the mind of Caucasians, then it can do the same for anybody, incl Thai guys.

Sure, when D was here, he sought Asian food when he could; that is only familiarity. (I will bet you do the same thing in Thailand, seeking out western food from time to time.) When western food was served to D he (mostly) enjoyed the experience.

If the Thai guys you know truly are as you stereotype, then I suggest you should start fishing in the deep end of the gene pool.

Try to find a ‘boi’ who thinks an occasional visit to DJ or ‘telepon’ is a treat, not a way of life. Perhaps one who is up at 6 am because he doesn’t have enough hours in his day otherwise.

Good luck.

]]> by: Big D Rob http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44434 Fri, 13 Jun 2008 22:39:41 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44434 He may be bored. He may not like the food or weather. But telling some that he will not like the food or weather is useless, that knowledge only come with experience. And then, if it's accurate, he may not wish to travel again. He may be bored. He may not like the food or weather. But telling some that he will not like the food or weather is useless, that knowledge only come with experience. And then, if it’s accurate, he may not wish to travel again.

]]> by: suan phlu farang http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44419 Fri, 13 Jun 2008 14:38:41 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44419 Chalerm is Thai and he will not get out of that rut, taking him to any farangland or Asialand will not get him out of that rut. He will be bored and he will not like the food or the weather and will want to return two days after his arrival. Chalerm is Thai and he will not get out of that rut, taking him to any farangland or Asialand will not get him out of that rut.

He will be bored and he will not like the food or the weather and will want to return two days after his arrival.

]]> by: Yraen http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44417 Fri, 13 Jun 2008 13:23:37 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44417 G'day. Many of the issues being discussed here were very similar to those I was experiencing. Until I confronted the issues head-on ... to the point where D felt shame. Then he decided to 'fly straight'. But I do agree with taking the bf on trips. D & I have done several internal Thai trips, he has spent his Uni long-break here in Aust and is now back at Uni. I would have no qualms about taking him to Malaysia or Indonesia, but I would seriously think about Singapore where Clause 377a still 'rules' and where a hotel room is considered a public place. His next trip to Aust is dependant on his grades following the end-of-year exams in Feb 2009. He knows that and he is happy with that. 2 1/2 years ago, like Chalerm, his event-horizon was only 24-48 hours away. Through my insistance and his Uni experiences, that has changed. Now he is about to turn 31yo. I suspect that may be the difference between Chalerm & D ... keep working on it SF, it will come out okay I am sure. Best wishes. G’day.

Many of the issues being discussed here were very similar to those I was experiencing. Until I confronted the issues head-on … to the point where D felt shame. Then he decided to ‘fly straight’.

But I do agree with taking the bf on trips. D & I have done several internal Thai trips, he has spent his Uni long-break here in Aust and is now back at Uni.

I would have no qualms about taking him to Malaysia or Indonesia, but I would seriously think about Singapore where Clause 377a still ‘rules’ and where a hotel room is considered a public place.

His next trip to Aust is dependant on his grades following the end-of-year exams in Feb 2009. He knows that and he is happy with that.

2 1/2 years ago, like Chalerm, his event-horizon was only 24-48 hours away. Through my insistance and his Uni experiences, that has changed.

Now he is about to turn 31yo. I suspect that may be the difference between Chalerm & D … keep working on it SF, it will come out okay I am sure.

Best wishes.

]]> by: trongpai http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44405 Fri, 13 Jun 2008 06:41:29 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44405 Rewards: Or they just change the rules. I once told my BF that if he had 5000B left over from last months allowance, I would give him an extra 3000B. Simple, he just borrowed short-time 5000 from a friend. Rewards: Or they just change the rules. I once told my BF that if he had 5000B left over from last months allowance, I would give him an extra 3000B. Simple, he just borrowed short-time 5000 from a friend.

]]> by: drongo http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44395 Fri, 13 Jun 2008 02:02:48 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44395 yes i think the other comments r right,u should take poor chalerm on at least a trip to singapore or watever ,it not cost that much & make him happy self again.... yes i think the other comments r right,u should take poor chalerm on at least a trip to singapore or watever ,it not cost that much & make him happy self again….

]]> by: Silom Farang http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44386 Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:47:37 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44386 Farang D once tried to promise a bonus to workers who showed up on time. They were still late but they wanted the bonus. Rewards for Thai boys should be immediate. If the reward is in the distant future they will slack, but maybe make an effort the last couple of days so they can get the reward. Or they will disagree with your record keeping, insisting that they have done better than you say. Farang D once tried to promise a bonus to workers who showed up on time. They were still late but they wanted the bonus.

Rewards for Thai boys should be immediate. If the reward is in the distant future they will slack, but maybe make an effort the last couple of days so they can get the reward.

Or they will disagree with your record keeping, insisting that they have done better than you say.

]]> by: Jeff http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44378 Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:54:14 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44378 If Charlerm is slacking, the solution is to offer him a "performance related" promise of a trip abroad. e.g.if he gets some good grades in his study & consistently offers some real affection. If Charlerm is slacking, the solution is to offer him a “performance related” promise of a trip abroad.
e.g.if he gets some good grades in his study & consistently offers some real affection.

]]> by: just a quickie http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44370 Thu, 12 Jun 2008 16:12:58 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-and-farangland/#comment-44370 I'd feel a little bit miffed if I were Chalerm. He's good enough to be your boyfriend but not good enough to be seen in Singapore with you. I’d feel a little bit miffed if I were Chalerm. He’s good enough to be your boyfriend but not good enough to be seen in Singapore with you.

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