Comments on: Thailand, Laos and family http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-laos-and-family/ The good life in Bangkok Fri, 09 Jan 2009 02:52:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.11-RC2 by: Lef http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-laos-and-family/#comment-50796 Sat, 09 Aug 2008 09:44:01 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-laos-and-family/#comment-50796 A "thank you" costs them nothing. We learn Thai customs and most of us attempt to follow them. Our bfs are often not reticent about telling us how to behave in the correct Thai way in particular situations. So Thais can learn our customs too. The "thank you" may not be part of Thai culture (although of course the wai can fulfill a similar role), but my bf learnt to say thank you without me even mentioning it. How ? I don't know. Perhaps someone told him or he read it somewhere. Maybe he noticed how often I said it, or maybe it just occurred to him that it was the thing to do. Thais have a very well developed sense of gratitude to their parents for what they have done for them. It may not be expressed as a "thank you" but it is expressed, often in quite outward signs of deep respect. If you're not getting any signs of gratitude at all from those you help, I'd be asking why. If Chalerm can play the joker and dominate the conversation when amongst his family (as my bf does), then he can have a gentle word to them. He might even realize a few things himself. A “thank you” costs them nothing. We learn Thai customs and most of us attempt to follow them. Our bfs are often not reticent about telling us how to behave in the correct Thai way in particular situations. So Thais can learn our customs too. The “thank you” may not be part of Thai culture (although of course the wai can fulfill a similar role), but my bf learnt to say thank you without me even mentioning it. How ? I don’t know. Perhaps someone told him or he read it somewhere. Maybe he noticed how often I said it, or maybe it just occurred to him that it was the thing to do. Thais have a very well developed sense of gratitude to their parents for what they have done for them. It may not be expressed as a “thank you” but it is expressed, often in quite outward signs of deep respect. If you’re not getting any signs of gratitude at all from those you help, I’d be asking why.
If Chalerm can play the joker and dominate the conversation when amongst his family (as my bf does), then he can have a gentle word to them. He might even realize a few things himself.

]]> by: bkkdreamer http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-laos-and-family/#comment-50773 Sat, 09 Aug 2008 04:14:19 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-laos-and-family/#comment-50773 You are lucky you have these interactions with Thai family, courtesy of Chalerm. My Thai BF is closeted at home most days, cooking. He gave up on family years ago, which means the only way I will be rid of him now is when he dies! What a cheery thought. You are lucky you have these interactions with Thai family, courtesy of Chalerm.

My Thai BF is closeted at home most days, cooking. He gave up on family years ago, which means the only way I will be rid of him now is when he dies!

What a cheery thought.

]]> by: Anonymous http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-laos-and-family/#comment-50768 Sat, 09 Aug 2008 03:32:44 +0000 http://gayboythailand.com/bangkok-thailand/thailand-laos-and-family/#comment-50768 Great observation, thanks. Great observation, thanks.

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